Dear Jewish Fairy Godmother:

Every year there are a variety of festivals in my city. I’m always pretty
good about putting folks up if they want to stay for an overnight,
letting them have parking in my driveway (which is near one of the
major events) and giving people information about where I keep my
house key in case they need a bathroom or to replenish the water
bottles. This year one of my colleagues offered to return the favor
when I wanted to attend the festival in his area. I pack for an
overnight and even brought a house gift. But when I got there I was
told oh, the wife overbooked, so you’ll have to sleep on a cot in the
laundry room. I politely demurred attended the festival for the day and
now have to figure out how to relate to him next week. Any good
advice?

Feeling Jacked

 
Dear Jacked:

Rather than parading him angrily, I would be cool and calm. As in
smiling politeness, but not excessive friendliness. If he had warned
you that you were among a throng of people, you might have prepared
accordingly. But in the absence of reliable information, you were
blindsided and I don’t blame you for feeling jacked.
The next time he asks for a favor tell him “the end is full” with this
sincere a face as he you can muster. I wouldn’t spread the story
around the office, because anything you say will be repeated with
malicious intent by people who enjoy public drama. But I wouldn’t rely
on this person for very much, let alone something that might influence
your professional future, without digging down hard on the details.