Dear Jewish Fairy Godmother:
I don’t mean to be a bore, because everyone and their mother and
daughter is now on a diet, but I got fat again while I wasn’t paying
attention. I’d put on five pounds last year but seem to have added
another five over the holidays, when I was too busy eating cookies to
pay any attention to vegetables or salads. Now I feel the same
helpless despair I felt last year when I needed to lose 20 pounds,
except I need to lose 30, am a year older and much more scared that
I’ve finally eaten myself into a hole so deep that I may not be able to
diet myself out of it. I don’t know where to start, and of course when I
get emotionally upset the first thing I want to do is eat.
Scared Hungry
Dear Scared:
Thirty isn’t fifty, or a hundred. It’s a doable, losable, amount of weight
to lose. Not overnight and not even in one big drop. But if you you’re
willing to commit to a patient process of eating less and exercising
more you can even keep it off. I know advice like your mother gave
you (my mother certainly gave it to me) isn’t the quick hit, sexy “you’ll
be a size ten tomorrow” pitch you may have been hoping for. But,
sadly, there’s no magic bullet or crash diet that’s going to help you
lose in a way that’s both effective and sustainable. It’s hard work to
stay on program day in and day out for the better part of a year. Or to
make the right decisions about what to eat three times a day, and
hardest when you get impatient, restless, angry, or plateaued (say
another zillion times this year). But if you do it right you’ll only have to
do it once.
You have many choices for the classic framework of eating less and
moving more. Here’s some tips to go along with: Weigh yourself
regularly; studies show that people who weigh daily lose faster and
keep it off. Write down what you eat; use a website or a tablet, but
hold yourself accountable and make sure your write everything down
that goes in your mouth. Obtain the support of those you live with and
friends you eat with; use encouragement, not shame, to keep you on
track. Use exercise to burn off stress. It may not taste as good as
chocolate, but the Weight Watcher’s motto is still true: Nothing tastes
as good as being thin feels.